Honesty Really is the Best Policy
When you join an online dating service, you are looking for a girl that you can like…or…even come to love. That girl is looking for a guy that SHE can like or even love. What you aren’t looking for is a girl who would like your best friend or your idea of what the perfect guy looks like or talks like or thinks like. So, in order to find the right girl for you…and she IS out there…you need to be completely honest with yourself about yourself when writing the online profile, during the dating process and beyond.
The best way to begin writing your profile is to carefully analyze your past relationship (s). What was right? What was wrong? What things really made you like the last girl? Which didn’t? Don’t assume that just because you hated that your last girl was so totally self-involved that she couldn’t see anything else, you’ll be able to overlook that quality this time. Or at least posses the know how to deal with her/him.
If you aren’t 6’1” with a six-pack to be proud of, don’t claim to be. If you are a bar tender, don’t claim to be a lawyer with a six figure income. If you are 40 going on 50, don’t pretend to be 30 something. The truth always comes out in time, especially when meeting in person. Now I’m not suggesting giving someone the low down on your imperfections, I’m saying share the aspects of yourself (and personality) that your proud of.
Remember, the idea here is to find a girl who will like you exactly like you are. If you have lied in your profile, the first face-to-face meeting will be the test. Your either the person she trusts to spend the rest of her life with or a fraud and a liar…and probably a cheat, as well.
Lastly, once you have found a girl that you believe can be the one for you, for goodness sakes, cancel your membership to the online dating service but DON’T delete the account. After all, you know and she knows that online dating services are intended for those who are looking…not those who have found or been found. (p.s. some services offer chat rooms for couples too!)